Cheaters Are Held Contempt Of Court

I believe that everyone can circle around the idea that cheating is bad and immoral. That's not up for debate here. However, is the umbrella of cheating big or small? What IS included in cheating? What's not included in cheating?

Some might say that cheating is only placing one's sexual organs on/in another person. You know just the acts of mutual masturbation with each other sexual intercourse. Very plain and very simply put.

Let's say you are lying in the bed with another and you strip naked. You have not engaged in touch but you are able to see each other in entirety. You begin to pleasure yourself in front of them. Is that grounds for cheating? The line is right there but it is so very very gray!

We've all watched some shape or from of pornography, whether it is soft porn or hardcore porn. Some become slaves to the porn and take sexual attention away from their mate and redirect it to the screen. Watching someone on web-cam would be the same! Seeing someone on screen perform sexual acts would be just as bad! With that same line of thinking, would being on a web-cam be considered cheating? You feed off of someone's sexual energy but they can be miles or hundreds/thousands of miles away! Remembering there was no physical contact, does the impersonal relationship distance make it ok?

There are those people that believe that any form of contact, whether it is cyber, mental, physical, optical or sexual, is cheating. Don't look at her! What are you doing on that computer? Who are you thinking about? Don't hold his hand like that! You slept with him (interpret both sexual and innocent)? She's only my girlfriend from back from sorority days, what's the big deal?

One person's views may be different than another's. Can we say conflict when a situation occurs? You say cheat when I plead innocent! None may be necessarily wrong, but what exactly is right? What is wrong? I'm so confused...

What happens after the act? Does a single act of cheating mark an upcoming ongoing habit? Can a relationship SUCCESSFULLY recover from this?

YOU BE THE JUDGE!

People of the Court, I Have Bad News...

Unfortunately, Relationship was just rushed to the hospital!

Its unfortunate that bad news comes to us at the most inopertune times. At our youth, at the peak of our careers, just after entering into relationships and it hits hard! Bad news such as:

• Cancer
• Genetic Disease
• HIV/AIDS
• Any other life threatening/altering sickness or STD

It's, like I said before, unfortunate. Your partner of however long is going through something that will affect your relationship if not you at the same time. What if that "something" is contagious? Your health is at stake, so you be selfish and leave looking out for number one? Do you stay and try to work something out?

Would you date someone who Is HIV positive? In a POLL, of 158 people, 31% said yes, 39% said no and 30% are unsure. Its a risk for you every time you go in! It's very difficult to have children if the male is positive. I am not even sure if it is medically possible without transmission. Damaging hopes and dreams are very likely to crash, or will you make it bounce? How do you recover from bad news like that?

Next post will conclude the Summons to Court. This will be a topic that will run through the 29th! It must be good one, don't forget to comment on this post and come back on Sunday!

Questioned Attraction?

Can you choose who you are attracted to? Can you choose who you are not attracted to? Is it that simple as an on and off switch, turned on and off whenever you want? I wonder...

Its so easy to say we are attracted to someone but all to often we hear "I'm not attracted anymore". I don't believe it is as simple as that. Attraction is a mental plus a physical bond. You are attracted to someones physique, their appearance, their mind and soul. These are bonds. Some are formed quicker than others but once formed, I refuse to believe they break like a dry pretzel! Its absurd and ridiculous!

Bisexuals, talking to me too lol, are funny when it comes to this. We prance around claiming to like both sexes. Do we really like both? Do we really have an attraction to each? I think that since society is more heterosexual, on paper lol, people choose to keep the attraction towards the heterosexual counterparts. Possible bonds may have been formed during the experimental stage that some journey through and, as previously stated, bonds are not easily broken! That may be another cause of Bisexuality. But, that's a whole new issue...

Ever seen someone that fits your every standard that you hold in a mate, but they are a little less that attracted? They are "OK" or "IIGHT" but nothing spectacular. Can you force an attraction on them? Can you literally make yourself like someone else? Should you do it? I really don't know. I tried to do it once but I was unsuccessful. I hear success stories but I never hear the follow-up!

Anyone care to cast an opinion?

Past, Present and Status -VS- Relationship

This post was formally known as "Objective, Relevency? Judgement to Who?"
Your comments will be drafted over to this post for your convenience!

After reading what I typed out, I realized that I was over the map. The side and private comments from other bloggers aided me to this decision. So I decided to step in and polish it up a lil bit. I gained a common ground for all the topics and gathered points that I wanted to express.

What happens when your past doings become an issue to your current relationship? The things that you once did, that have no direct bearing over the relationship, are now bubbling to the surface causing problems. Maybe you were a porn star years ago. Maybe you were a hoe and all your peoples are surfacing right before your lover's and your eyes! Maybe nothing sexual, but criminal backgrounds can do the same!

Current activity, or lack thereof, not mixing well with the relationship? Lover has a great job, but its illegal, compromising to character and/or is just plain immoral. Possible that you are a bump on a log and doing nothing! Lazy good for nothing sum um ma bitch! LOL You have no plans for anything and don't want to do anything! Is that behavior conducive to a relationship? Some may think it's ok!

"You ain't got no money in the bank..." Money makes the world go round. Do you really need money to make a relationship work? Should one be started without money? Money doesn't make the relationship, why does it break the relationship? People get together because of common interest, physical appearance and LOVE! Did I leave out money? Should I put it in? Should both parties work, or just one? Which one? I'm not going more into gender roles and who should do what. I think that is one of the main thing that complicated the last post. Money just complicates things! lol

Can you get past something that doesn't have anything to do to you? Should past history affect the relationship? When one party has more money, how do you avoid that being a obstacle? Can you commit to someone who is broke? Why does money have so much power?

Review here if you are just tuning into the discussion. In order: Summons to Court, Father Time, to the Witness Stand, Which way should I go?, Happy What? Merry Who? Feliz Nada!!!

Happy What? Merry Who? Feliz Nada!!!

You bring home a woman to Momma or a man home to Daddy and they have the shock of the world printed on their forehead! You wonder what's the matter and what is going on! It's because you're toting a bible, while your girlfriend has ALL but her eyes and hands covered! Maybe, on Sunday morning, your man is going to church while your girlfriend thinks the Bible is just another book!

You are unequally yolked and it's not causing anyone besides everyone else a problem. Everyone has a comment! You manage to ignore them for the moment, but how long can you keep up the front? You have different religions and you don't know what to do about it! It's an issue that may or may not become a problem.

It can work! I acknowledge Jesus, because that's my Lord and Savior! Shawn and I have a slight difference of religion/belief, but it works. There is minor strain but we manage. It takes compromise and the ability to be open-minded.

The frequency of faith practice counts as well, even if you are in the same religion. Some people devote their lives to worship and religion. I don't see a problem with that! Christianity tells us to bless the Lord at all times, devote ourselves to him, do his work, to go about our Father's business (by imitating Christ). When do you have ample time to give your mate? The "what about me" idea comes up! There needs to be a balance, or does there? Religion comes first and you second right? Wrong?

Some religions are historically enemies. They just don't mix and are complete opposites. Due to today's acceptance and tolerance ideas, people are more lax in what used to be firm. Then you get into something only to potentially have conflict later. One not bending or not bending enough to the others needs! Your journey to Mecca while the other is in need! The huge elaborate company dinner in the middle of hubby's Lent! Christmas and Resurrection Sunday with an Athesist? That could be complicated . . .

Would couples with extreme differences be able to work through this? Would you advise such mixture? Maybe something that should be dealt with on that individual and not enter into the relationship? Should you bend for a religion thats not your own? Where is the line that you should not cross?

Which way should I go?

Have you ever been through these phases in a relationship?

Phase One, ACTION! I love you, I need you, and I can’t be without you! I want to move in with you! Let’s have joint bank accounts. Let’s have/adopt a baby!

then...

Phase Two, ACTION! Ummm, I don’t think we should be together. I’m still straight and I think being gay is wrong! I can’t continue to live a lie, I’m gay!

Have you ever found yourself mixed into a relationship to later found out that your partner/lover/husband/wife has mixed emotions about their sexual orientation? Catches you by surprise, right? You’re married to a man/woman only to discover he/she has gay tendencies and likenesses! You are involved in a gay relationship and find that your lover is having straight feelings and thinks homosexuality is wrong and a phase! That’s a blow to the heart, if you have invested that much in it!

Another element is how you found out! Did your lover tell you? Or did you find out? Some of the older school parents said, “don’t let me have to find out”” to whatever you did. They always wanted you to be the 1st to tell them. Same applies to the relationship. It counts a great deal!

What it boils down to is confusion. Confused lovers enter relationships without any communication of these feelings. People are led down the long path called life; making plans assuming everything is just peachy, until, the convicting message at church or that grope in the club.

Let’’s stab at this from another angle. Assuming you have a great lover that gives you ALL. What if, just maybe seduction occurs, outside the parameters of the relationship, and interest arises! Where there was no confusion before, it now has a home. It grows, and GROWS into issues!

I know that some couples would go forward like nothing has ever happened and just incorporate it into the relationship. Treat it as an upgraded relationship. Sex is better. It opens the doors of exploration! Flipping the coin, some couples this would be the iceberg to their titanic relationship. How long will it stay on top of the water before it sinks?

What do you do in this situation? How do you handle it? Can you successfully adapt? Do you move on?

If you are just tuning in, refer to “Summons to Court”. This should clear everything up!

Father Time, to the Witness Stand!

It was brought to my attention that the subjects that i intend to touch on are very touchy for one in a relationship to speak on. I pose these questions hypothetically to generate conversation. I want to open eyes to what relationships are in their entirety. This is my purpose, and enjoy!

Father Time has been called to the stand. Age what a number! It can help and hurt in different ways depending on the couple involved. It is said that age brings experience, which begats wisdom. This tends to be the case but is not necessarily true. Invertly, you may be young and have more experience and wisdom than a older person.

If the two are compatible and seem to be attracted to each other, will an age difference be an issue? If there isn't an issue, will it become an issue with time? Does it interfere with your sex lives? What about your social lives?

My man and I have a 5 year difference. we compliment and polish each other in different ways. I think there is a balance and we learn from each other. My parents had a age difference of 10 with my father being older. I believe my mother had the upper hand and held more wisdom and humbleness. (they were married over 30 years) I know a couple where there is a 21 year difference, and I honestly don't know who is more mature! (this couple has issues and are about to be together for about a year)

Would you date someone your age? Younger? Older? Why? Why not? Does it matter? Its your turn to speak!

Summons to Court

Feburary is the month which seems to include the most love throughout the entire year. Relationships thrive, commitments are made and recommitments are declared. What if your relationship was on trial? What if subjects that are taboo to relationships were brought up? Serious questions that would give needed answers! I am trying to gear the questions a posts so they apply to both hetero and homosexual relationships.

This month I will attempt to stab at many topics regarding relationships. My hope is to get feedback that will hopefully be of some assistance to someone. I will try to post two topics, one on Sunday and the other on Wednesday. I am a bit out of order by posting today but there will be another post this Sunday.

I was reading a post from another blogger, LIFE, and there was a quote that caught my attention. It was actually the inspiration for this idea. "...you will not find a perfect mate, but you need to find the person with the least amount of manageable problems." Do we ever stop searching for the person who is slightly more compatible than we currently have? Don't we deserve to get the mate we've dreamed and fantasized about?

Everyone in a relationship, in my opinion, has some problem with their mate. Their imperfections turn you from them to someone else. You see Mr./Ms (sometimes Mrs.) Slightly Better come walking right in front of you, while your mate is on your arm. What makes you think you have got gold? What makes you think you have silver and gold just walked by?

Do You Think?

While the previous post was one on a very lighter note, I would like to pose you a question. I receive a daily quote to my cell phone. Usually I use them as wake up calls, however a paid attention to this one. Below is a survey that I would like you to answer. I would appreciate a comment left behind in addition to the answer whether you are anonymous or generate a fake name. I did send this out to quite a few bloggers via text, so this will be a repeat for them.

Here is the Quote: "We only think when we are confronted with a problem." John Dewey

Do you agree? Cast your thoughts!

What Do You Think? Do you believe this is true? yes no view results

Seems like the vote is almost equal. There were votes that were not accounted for because they were responses via text! (this pushed the vote in favor of Yes!)

Ever Jerked Off Like This? (Caution Nudity)

So one day I was bored at home in my house. I was on the PC and took a gander at a condom that was on the desk. I thought to myself, "hmmmmm". I said why not! I broke open the sucka and rolled it right on down. It felt nice! I touched it a few times and it felt good too! I grabbed my dick and began to pleasure myself. The first time I jerked off in a condom! Is this something new, or have I been missing out?