Cheaters Are Held Contempt Of Court

I believe that everyone can circle around the idea that cheating is bad and immoral. That's not up for debate here. However, is the umbrella of cheating big or small? What IS included in cheating? What's not included in cheating?

Some might say that cheating is only placing one's sexual organs on/in another person. You know just the acts of mutual masturbation with each other sexual intercourse. Very plain and very simply put.

Let's say you are lying in the bed with another and you strip naked. You have not engaged in touch but you are able to see each other in entirety. You begin to pleasure yourself in front of them. Is that grounds for cheating? The line is right there but it is so very very gray!

We've all watched some shape or from of pornography, whether it is soft porn or hardcore porn. Some become slaves to the porn and take sexual attention away from their mate and redirect it to the screen. Watching someone on web-cam would be the same! Seeing someone on screen perform sexual acts would be just as bad! With that same line of thinking, would being on a web-cam be considered cheating? You feed off of someone's sexual energy but they can be miles or hundreds/thousands of miles away! Remembering there was no physical contact, does the impersonal relationship distance make it ok?

There are those people that believe that any form of contact, whether it is cyber, mental, physical, optical or sexual, is cheating. Don't look at her! What are you doing on that computer? Who are you thinking about? Don't hold his hand like that! You slept with him (interpret both sexual and innocent)? She's only my girlfriend from back from sorority days, what's the big deal?

One person's views may be different than another's. Can we say conflict when a situation occurs? You say cheat when I plead innocent! None may be necessarily wrong, but what exactly is right? What is wrong? I'm so confused...

What happens after the act? Does a single act of cheating mark an upcoming ongoing habit? Can a relationship SUCCESSFULLY recover from this?

YOU BE THE JUDGE!

Questioned Attraction?

Can you choose who you are attracted to? Can you choose who you are not attracted to? Is it that simple as an on and off switch, turned on and off whenever you want? I wonder...

Its so easy to say we are attracted to someone but all to often we hear "I'm not attracted anymore". I don't believe it is as simple as that. Attraction is a mental plus a physical bond. You are attracted to someones physique, their appearance, their mind and soul. These are bonds. Some are formed quicker than others but once formed, I refuse to believe they break like a dry pretzel! Its absurd and ridiculous!

Bisexuals, talking to me too lol, are funny when it comes to this. We prance around claiming to like both sexes. Do we really like both? Do we really have an attraction to each? I think that since society is more heterosexual, on paper lol, people choose to keep the attraction towards the heterosexual counterparts. Possible bonds may have been formed during the experimental stage that some journey through and, as previously stated, bonds are not easily broken! That may be another cause of Bisexuality. But, that's a whole new issue...

Ever seen someone that fits your every standard that you hold in a mate, but they are a little less that attracted? They are "OK" or "IIGHT" but nothing spectacular. Can you force an attraction on them? Can you literally make yourself like someone else? Should you do it? I really don't know. I tried to do it once but I was unsuccessful. I hear success stories but I never hear the follow-up!

Anyone care to cast an opinion?