You bring home a woman to Momma or a man home to Daddy and they have the shock of the world printed on their forehead! You wonder what's the matter and what is going on! It's because you're toting a bible, while your girlfriend has ALL but her eyes and hands covered! Maybe, on Sunday morning, your man is going to church while your girlfriend thinks the Bible is just another book!
You are unequally yolked and it's not causing anyone besides everyone else a problem. Everyone has a comment! You manage to ignore them for the moment, but how long can you keep up the front? You have different religions and you don't know what to do about it! It's an issue that may or may not become a problem.
It can work! I acknowledge Jesus, because that's my Lord and Savior! Shawn and I have a slight difference of religion/belief, but it works. There is minor strain but we manage. It takes compromise and the ability to be open-minded.
The frequency of faith practice counts as well, even if you are in the same religion. Some people devote their lives to worship and religion. I don't see a problem with that! Christianity tells us to bless the Lord at all times, devote ourselves to him, do his work, to go about our Father's business (by imitating Christ). When do you have ample time to give your mate? The "what about me" idea comes up! There needs to be a balance, or does there? Religion comes first and you second right? Wrong?
Some religions are historically enemies. They just don't mix and are complete opposites. Due to today's acceptance and tolerance ideas, people are more lax in what used to be firm. Then you get into something only to potentially have conflict later. One not bending or not bending enough to the others needs! Your journey to Mecca while the other is in need! The huge elaborate company dinner in the middle of hubby's Lent! Christmas and Resurrection Sunday with an Athesist? That could be complicated . . .
Would couples with extreme differences be able to work through this? Would you advise such mixture? Maybe something that should be dealt with on that individual and not enter into the relationship? Should you bend for a religion thats not your own? Where is the line that you should not cross?
You are unequally yolked and it's not causing anyone besides everyone else a problem. Everyone has a comment! You manage to ignore them for the moment, but how long can you keep up the front? You have different religions and you don't know what to do about it! It's an issue that may or may not become a problem.
It can work! I acknowledge Jesus, because that's my Lord and Savior! Shawn and I have a slight difference of religion/belief, but it works. There is minor strain but we manage. It takes compromise and the ability to be open-minded.
The frequency of faith practice counts as well, even if you are in the same religion. Some people devote their lives to worship and religion. I don't see a problem with that! Christianity tells us to bless the Lord at all times, devote ourselves to him, do his work, to go about our Father's business (by imitating Christ). When do you have ample time to give your mate? The "what about me" idea comes up! There needs to be a balance, or does there? Religion comes first and you second right? Wrong?
Some religions are historically enemies. They just don't mix and are complete opposites. Due to today's acceptance and tolerance ideas, people are more lax in what used to be firm. Then you get into something only to potentially have conflict later. One not bending or not bending enough to the others needs! Your journey to Mecca while the other is in need! The huge elaborate company dinner in the middle of hubby's Lent! Christmas and Resurrection Sunday with an Athesist? That could be complicated . . .
Would couples with extreme differences be able to work through this? Would you advise such mixture? Maybe something that should be dealt with on that individual and not enter into the relationship? Should you bend for a religion thats not your own? Where is the line that you should not cross?
15 thoughts:
I think that two people of two diffrent relgions will have a dificult time making their realtionship work in the long term. Our basic values and principles are reflected in our religious beliefs. If your values and principles are very different, when the physical attraction gets old, there is very little left to the realtionship.
Ohhh - this is good man. I'd love to engage in this conversation with some intelligent people.
Religion (which should be what makes us more loving, caring and responsible human beings) is actually the #1 dividing force in the world! More people are killed in the name of organized religion (and differing opinions on it) than any other. That said, why participate in the ignorance that says we are ALWAYS right and our religion MUST be the acceptable one. Praise and worship who or what you see fit and prove the worthiness of your beliefs through the quality of your actions. Well, that's my take on it. Go figure...
Religion, yes a great divider, yet brings diversity! You can compare this to being African American, Caucasian, Hispanic or Asian. It brings something new to the table. So why not accept it with open arms?
Division only causes hatred and destruction. That is what most people want to abolish! Religious freedom in relationships!!!
I see i have missed alot... You have been busy!
Religion is one of those subjects that this brotha generally will not engage in, but I will comment this time being that it is your blog and I appreciate your opinion and your blog. Religion today is no more than a way to seperate people and very rarily does faith or humanity come into play just a bunch of rules not guidelines to be followed; Can you say: Cult?
yEah,except for jehovah witnesses
they just evil manchild
My ex and I had many a disagreement about the whole religion thing. While she sometimes said she "wasn't trying to push me," she ended up backing into reasons why I should go.
You never tell a person what to do with their time, unless it's something unlawful that's causing a divide. Cocoa Rican is dead on in the fact that religion is the top dividing force in the world. I think if you're in love, you can allow yourself to not mind that your partner goes to/skirts church every Sunday.
I'll never be an "every Sunday" type of churchgoer. But I believe, and that should be enough for an assurance.
I can be honest and say that I don't feel like I'd mesh well with someone who has a different religion from myself. Normally in one of the initial convos, I try to make it all clear where I stand and I seek their perspective. If the individual is an atheist or has a completely different religion, I begin to lose interest. I would never condemn anyone b/c of that difference b/c we all have that right. So therefore, I have the right to not engage in a relationship with them. I don't ever want to feel like there are limitations within my relationship. How could I come home and celebrate the new job in which I'm underqualified but prayed long and hard for and got with an athiest if I feel like it was a divinely given? It seems like there would be too much red tape. That's just me..
If you have to practice religion, then you don't have God.
Now this is one I can comment on...personally I think persons of different religious beliefs and practices can work out as long as their religions don't call for them to kill the other (extreme, but hell look whose writing this). I've dated several people who believed church was a place you only went to on Easter if ever and I'm christian. Religion for me has never been a factor in a relationship. I have asked all my exs to attend church with me, haven't hid my faith, but haven't made it an issue. A romantic relationship is a step above a friendship, would this be an issue with a friend?
My mother was a Jehovah's Witness, while my father sometimes attended church. My old roommate was raised Muslim, and he married a Christian. Two people of conflicting religions can last. Even though I'm sure it was hard, they did not allow their religions to overshadow their love for each other. Like everything in life, there has got to be balance, and religion is simply ONE PART of that balance.
This is a good dialogue.
I have always been opened minded about different religions and have dated christians, muslims, buddhists and atheist.
I think my main concern when it came to religion and a relationship was how comfortable were they about there sexuality.
I have had many boyfriends that was down with me only to leave me because they thought being gay was a sin, or they wanted Jesus in there life, or they wanted to be delivered.
Make your choices, that is fine, but I like being in relationships where they are sure or at least close to sure who they are in relationship with me and God.
Other then that, we would have to work things out to each others lifestyles.
While religeon does divide I feel that division is more based on human depravity than the teachings of the divine. Allah, Jesus, Yaweh, Buddha, Krishna, Brahma, etc. dfo highly disapprove ofthe evil that men and women do in their names. Cause it's all about love, treating people (including yourself) right, and then going on to paradise in the afterlife.
As pour amour...Hmmm. It can work but both people have to have their eyes wide open, their hearts totally unhinged, and above all they must communicate trully how they feel on matters of faith. Religeon in a relationship is like everything else in a relationship it requires open communication.
Religious belief is just mans way of finding and understanding mankinds place in this immense universe. Of grounding ourselves.
Why question how any man woman chooses to do that?
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