Feburary is the month which seems to include the most love throughout the entire year. Relationships thrive, commitments are made and recommitments are declared. What if your relationship was on trial? What if subjects that are taboo to relationships were brought up? Serious questions that would give needed answers! I am trying to gear the questions a posts so they apply to both hetero and homosexual relationships.This month I will attempt to stab at many topics regarding relationships. My hope is to get feedback that will hopefully be of some assistance to someone. I will try to post two topics, one on Sunday and the other on Wednesday. I am a bit out of order by posting today but there will be another post this Sunday.
I was reading a post from another blogger, LIFE, and there was a quote that caught my attention. It was actually the inspiration for this idea. "...you will not find a perfect mate, but you need to find the person with the least amount of manageable problems." Do we ever stop searching for the person who is slightly more compatible than we currently have? Don't we deserve to get the mate we've dreamed and fantasized about?
Everyone in a relationship, in my opinion, has some problem with their mate. Their imperfections turn you from them to someone else. You see Mr./Ms (sometimes Mrs.) Slightly Better come walking right in front of you, while your mate is on your arm. What makes you think you have got gold? What makes you think you have silver and gold just walked by?
11 thoughts:
I feel that one never stops looking for a better mate. People want the best of the best!
At the same time, I believe that once a certain amount of time is invested that concept goes out the window. You have put in so much time that you may not want to hurt them by dumping them.
Age is another factor that mixes the punch. You are a certain age and you found someone who wants you. They may not be all what you want, but who else is going to come along? I gotta act now while I can still function! lol
LOL...funny.
Personally, I prefer silver anyway.
That said, keep the "bird in hand..." admonition at heart. Sometimes while trying to get better you get nothing.
Wow, if my relationship was on trial I wonder how we'd fair. My realtionship has had it share of ups and downs, and what might come out in court might surprise everyone. But when the verdict comes in, I think we'd be sentenced to life with each other. I really do love my partner.
There is a stark difference in retain what YOU got versus getting what has been ordained for you to have.
I gather if I were in a current relationship I would certainly be served with a Summons to Court I have learned that being faithful doesn't count for much these days we are so ready to move on and most times we creep causing us to lose interest in our partners, this is not necessarily the norm, but it happens and as for me I been down that road once or twice and I can't see doing it again that is why I am addicted to strippers (I am in love with a Stripper). LOL No seriously I love being in love and I am faithful, but I do agree with you there are factors to be taken into consideration. Will be looking forward to reading your blog on Sunday and Wednesday.
The love gets old...one feels
used,the other useless...the
partners stop supporting each other
and start attacking little meaningless faults...I think when
the picking starts,its time to move on...especially if the one
now doing the picking was or is
tainted and forgot or wants to
forget their shit.
There is always something better out there than what you have. Imagine trying to always have the best car. You will be buying another one every 6 months. If you have someone who is good for you and good to you, then you should focus on keeping him/her.
As sensitive of a topic this is for me, I do feel that my thoughts and feelings should be stated on the topics.
I do like the concept of a "relationship on trial"... kinda reminds me of the new show "Moment of Truth" I think having an open forum on seeing other peoples views are important... for anyone.
My Relationship Philosophy: The basis for any relationship is to connect with someone to know, learn, & grow things about yourself, and do the same for another.
My Commitment Philosophy: The basis to making a commitment is invest time and energy into two people creating one life together. This Life should be a union that is beneficial to the growth of the two people involved.... and further to enhance the lives of others (children, friends, family, society)
When ever you meet somebody your looking for someone that you want in a mate, and also what you need in a mate. Most people are clear about this... others are not. Some don't care. In the end, you have criteria and your mate has to meet that.
You can never fully realize one's potential if you are always looking for someone else. Not to say that you don't date, but once you commit, your saying to yourself... I am going to see this person's potential and see if we works. If it doesn't, then I will look elsewhere.
Cheating is really about cheating yourself. If you KNOW your mate is good, and you just want a piece of ass or dick from time to time, your cheating yourself out of a full loving relationship.
If the person is doing wrong, and you cheat to get back at them... your still cheating yourself. Just dump them and move on.
Don't cheat yourself out of someone's potential, or even your own.
Nice topic. I'm not in a relationship right now, but will comment on it.
I think that it has become the norm and is partly humnan to keep searching the next bigger, better, faster, prettier, etc. When that idealogy comes into one's thoughts regarding relationships, it leaves behind many hurt people.
I don't mean to say that all people like that are dawgs because I once thought that way and had no malintent. I just thought that if there was someone that I was dating and they did ANYTHING that I didn't like, it was all good, we could be friends but I had to move on looking for love. It wasn't until years later, after being single for all of them, that I finally got it.
No matter who you find, you can and will find something about them that you don't like. That isn't a get out of jail free card to go mess around or try to find another. It means that if it is trivial or within reason, that you should work that out, and quit trying to mess with every Tom that has a Dick, that's Harry. lol
@ cocoa rican: Very true, the grass is not always greener on the other side! Is it worth the risk to venture and see?
@ whozhe: That is real confidence. Now only to find someone, if you haven't already, that shares that sentiment and you will be set! easier said than done?
@ the captain: There is a main component that is missing from today's society, waiting and patience. Sometimes to get what is ordained for you, you will need to wait for it. Most wish not to wait and take matters into their own hands!
@ chet: Being faithful may or may not count for much nowadays. However, it has to be worth something! It is too great a quality to be worthless!
@ manchild: Do you really believe that love gets old? Sounds like a topic worth discussion!
@ That Dude Right There: The difference between relationships and cars, people look for a relationship they can keep! Cars aren't made to last forever. Hmmmm but on the other hand, are relationships meant to last?
@ shawnqt: This I know is touchy but I am glad you commented! :-)
Your view and opinion may help someone that needs to be helped. Hope to hear you on the next post!
@ ty: Ty, lets hear your part coming from the outside of a relationship. Why you are or aren't looking for another relationship. Things that you would try different. You've been there, school the youngins!!!
Keep thinking outside the box and rendering thoughts and opinions!
I've always refused to settle. Growing up a fat kid and losing my wieght so late changed certain of my priorities in life. I believe any eccentricity is manageable in a healthy relationship. Who is perfect? But, I know what I want in another brother with that special something. This will outshine his shortcomings.
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