I was initially going to title this post 2 guys and a girl. but I decided not to. I think me making mention of my previous intentions has served its purpose.
I was getting to know 2 guys and a girl. I had intentions of dating and getting to know each of them. Falling into a recent slump, I realized that I was more alone than I cared to be. I suppose being in an apartment with nobody to make noise but the television and yourself forces you to realize that there is nobody to make noise with you. It's a bummer! I listen to one of my friends as he tells me about his desire to be held at night. Under the moonlight, that shined through my skylight, I felt the same desire. I rolled over to avoid thinking about it, but the feelings and thoughts chased me! They hounded me like fruit flies on a old piece of fruit left on the counter. I couldn't ignore it any longer. I needed a partner! Thus, the reason why I opened my eyes and started to notice my surroundings and go after what I wanted.
I've been entertaining the idea of dating a girl, Brit, for some time now. I'm seriously stepping out on these desires and for the first time the outcome wasn't as predicted. I've gone on one date with her and somehow managed not to put my foot in my mouth. Yes Twin, it's possible! I've spent time with another guy, his name is Kris. He's a gentleman, manners, the whole shebang! He's accomplished though, beyond where I stand and has a way of showing that. (not a good thing) The other guy, Essauh, (lets call him No Sheets LOL) is more attractive, sexier, more blessed (use imagination), and more street smart than Kris. There is a catch which keeps Kris in the running! I'll save that for a later post!
I've established a personal way to go about seeing people. I'll be setting a minimum of 2 months of getting to know an individual before making any sort of commitment. This time frame will be used for dates, maybe chillin wit friends, etc. so forth and on! I hope this works out for me!
On to the people poll! Located on the left side of the blog, for those of you that don't know, lol! Here's the question, after getting to know someone for about a month, you find out that the person is involved in drug activity. What would you do?
I was getting to know 2 guys and a girl. I had intentions of dating and getting to know each of them. Falling into a recent slump, I realized that I was more alone than I cared to be. I suppose being in an apartment with nobody to make noise but the television and yourself forces you to realize that there is nobody to make noise with you. It's a bummer! I listen to one of my friends as he tells me about his desire to be held at night. Under the moonlight, that shined through my skylight, I felt the same desire. I rolled over to avoid thinking about it, but the feelings and thoughts chased me! They hounded me like fruit flies on a old piece of fruit left on the counter. I couldn't ignore it any longer. I needed a partner! Thus, the reason why I opened my eyes and started to notice my surroundings and go after what I wanted.
I've been entertaining the idea of dating a girl, Brit, for some time now. I'm seriously stepping out on these desires and for the first time the outcome wasn't as predicted. I've gone on one date with her and somehow managed not to put my foot in my mouth. Yes Twin, it's possible! I've spent time with another guy, his name is Kris. He's a gentleman, manners, the whole shebang! He's accomplished though, beyond where I stand and has a way of showing that. (not a good thing) The other guy, Essauh, (lets call him No Sheets LOL) is more attractive, sexier, more blessed (use imagination), and more street smart than Kris. There is a catch which keeps Kris in the running! I'll save that for a later post!
I've established a personal way to go about seeing people. I'll be setting a minimum of 2 months of getting to know an individual before making any sort of commitment. This time frame will be used for dates, maybe chillin wit friends, etc. so forth and on! I hope this works out for me!
On to the people poll! Located on the left side of the blog, for those of you that don't know, lol! Here's the question, after getting to know someone for about a month, you find out that the person is involved in drug activity. What would you do?
13 thoughts:
You know what, young Fuzzy Wuzzy, at times, I'm not going to lie I do feel like at times, you are like a brotha from another motha, but with a jersey twist.
There was a lot of things in this post, that hit home with me, like other post. Even the thing that some people would be shocked about, but I'm not going to go into that right now.
Gee Fuzz, based off of your new people poll question, I wonder what could be the interesting thing about "No sheets," that keeps Kris in the running...hmmm...now this is a hard one....
All I will say is this, speaking as someone, who has gotten with and kicked it with a person with substance problems, let me give you my rules.
As long as your drug habit, doesn't get me involved with the law, doesn't take any money out of my pocket, or has any negative side effects to what's between their legs, that interferes with what we do sexually, or you will do for me, then what you do, is your thing!
I think the two month thing is cool, I think sometimes you rush into monogamy so fast. At times, from what I read from you, you come off as a serial monogamous. Just date and enjoy being single, and when you as Janet Jackson says..."Get so lonely at night"...call one of these negros up, and just it down, and keep it moving.
I guess this post could also aptly be titled “Choices”. First before I begin, I would like to say that I have truly missed you in the blogger and twitter world. :( I’m sorry you have been under the weather, I will continue as always to lift you up in prayer. I consider you a mentor so that’s a given. As I read the post you express a common sentiment that I have, I just like you don’t mind being on my own but I do sometimes want to see more than the four walls. I still have the desire to be held at night, but its lessened now. I think you , quite like me can fall in love too fast too quickly and then feel trapped. (please correct me if I’m out of line.) Sounds like you may be in for a bit of an upgrade with Kris, but is he where you are intellectually, I consider you to be wiser than most of the blokes out there. I like the idea that you are trying something new and are not afraid to do something unusual, a clear sign of your intellectual ability. I just don’t know about Essauh just because he is more attractive physically, where is he character wise? I think you’ll be alright with Brit, any girl or guy would be lucky to have you. (got a felling I’m out of line again). I see this as more than establishing a way to see and get to know both people, I see it as your unconscious way of putting yourself first again. I personally feel that you’ve always freely given to others but now you are purposely scheduling time for activities that make you happy, such as spending time with friends, activities that will reduce some of the mundane same oh, same oh of your daily routine. I truly hope it works out for you as well. I wish you all the best on your endeavor Sir Fuzzy! In answer to your people pool which I have voted on, I would seriously question whether the risks outweighed the benefits of being involved with someone who traffics drugs. If I were in your shoes, and I never have been, I would weigh my options and ask myself some hard questions? Please, please look out for your best interests in dealing with the person who is involved in drug activity, because in the end they will be doing their best to cover their own rear end. As always look forward to hearing from you soon!
Much Love, Rodrigo
I feel you as well Fuzzy. Sometimes I am in my apartment and I'm like it would be nice to hold someone right now. And I don't mean someone who comes over and do-the-do just to leave right after. Then other times I remember that I love my freedom to do what I want, when I want, why I want.
I think that your decision to wait at LEAST two months before committing is wise. Maybe you should consider waiting even longer. When you are dating someone the pressure is not there that exists when you start using manogamous relationship language such as "ours", "we", etc. Spend plenty of time with this person in different situations and see how things go, then on down the road making the decision to commit will come with ease. As far as the poll to the left of the page, I tried to click on "get away while you can" so fast that I almost broke my mouse and my finger. Anybody using any type of illegal drugs (or sometimes the misuse of legal drugs) is not relationship material. Their drug usage proves that they cannot handle something negative that has power over them. The same may even play out if they are faced with the temptation of having an affair. They may not have the power to just say no.
Let the girl know that you "swing" both ways if you haven't already done so. That is MAJOR!!!!!!!! and your honesty will be greatly appreciated.
GLAD TO HEAR THAT YOU ARE EXERCISING YOUR OPTIONS...
AND ON THE POLL RUN LIKE HELL IS MY ANSWER...
The ball is in your court. Trust and follow your heart.
Everybody talks about how great it is to be "single"...But, never mentions the lonely side of the coin! That REALLY grinds my gears! LOL!
I'm going to need details about this "hetero" date that you had.
I love the "2 month" plan that you created! I hope it works in the "field".
As far as Poll question...What kinda "drug activity" are we talking about? "Herbal refreshment"? LOL!
;-)
I'm happy that you have options, i dont even have one person to even think about laying with...sigh*
i'm jealous of Brit..... :(
glad you are out there dating around and getting to know people.. but make sure you let everyone involved ( not just brit) that you swing both ways.
hell yeah..check out all options
before committing,I wouldnt let
the female know unless she is
cool...sounds cold,but in this
day/age loose lips can sink ships.
I dated a dopeboy for awhile,until
the jakes pulled him,its ok,but
maintain a distance from those
activities,know it can end at anytime and be aware of what u can be pulled into.
Two months is kinda a long time to string 2 peeps along knowing that you intend to dump two of them, no? I dunno.
As for the poll. If it's weed, then Im all fine and dandy with it. If it's anything outside of weed, then we have a problem.
Looking good dude, keep upp the good work. What is this about dating three people? OMG! Have fun with it and be safe always.
I am certain that many of us have or continues to feel the same way about having someone to cuddle up with at night under the moonlight, or during a storm. I know all to well what is like to be alone (single), but it gets better with time and sooner or later that someone special will come along.
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