I just posted a blog and comments and emails on the post started to flood in. I have my phone set up to get my emails automatically and blogger forwards me the comments as they are left on my blogs. Dre comments on how "HOT" my phone is and inquires on why. I told him they are emails from comments on my blog. He was taken back that I would keep a blog and made mention that he wanted to start a blog. Then he wanted to know what my blog address was. I hesitated on giving that info up. I like having this as a private forum to vent about him without his ears coming into contact with my opinions. Plus there is much here that he could take the wrong way. If i keep denying he might think I have something to hide. What do I do?
11 years ago
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I wouldn't tell, but yeah he is going to start thinking you're hiding something.
A guy a dated found my blog and I stopped posting lol. Felt like I was being censored.
I know how that can be...I have to watch what I say here as Noel is a pvt person...
One of my friends just recommended I tell Kindheart about my blog, as I have discussed details of our developing relationship. He already knows that I blog, but he's never read it. Since we'll be spending time together this weekend, I THINK I'll show it to him, as I have not written anything that I'm ashamed of. However, if he opposes to being mentioned, I'll stop posting about him. It's all about respect.
so yea... i wrote this blog post like a week ago and have bumped back the post for quite some time to get more time sensitive posts out lol...
i've showed him my blog, but he doesnt know the address of it. He was surprised that he was the subject of chatter. I was told last night that he now has a blog. He hasnt posted on it or started setting it up yet. he wants me to help him set it up. Shawn, does this sound familiar? Lol
I will not sensor my material. I'm honest with him in person and if he gets the url of the blog (not very hard to find) he will have no surprises. This is my blog gosh darnett! Lol I just might divulge some private material that may be sensitive to his ears that I may not be ready to bring up. You all are my therapists! You all help and guide me and offer suggestions and opinions that I may have not considered. I want that aspect to stay in tact. I'm still thinking on whether I wanna let him completely in to my blog world. Is that real? Is that understandable? idk myself, the story is yet unfolding...
If he's not the super-sensitive type, and since you're already being honest with him, then reading your blog wouldn't be too big of an issue. If nothing else, it can be seen as "constructive criticism". Or, you can both agree on keeping it private as your personal means to vent/whine/bitch/whatever.
Hey Fuzzy,
That's a hard one. You don't want to write something on here and then he try to "attack" you with that info later.
I think if there are blogs entries you want to share with him, either print it or maybe cut & paste it into an email.
It will limit his access to the whole blog, but it will let you share the parts you want him to know.
I don't think you should tell him, at least not right away.
I told The Voice about my blog from the start and while it was cute at first, I neglected to realize that once the honeymoon ends, anything negative you post gets read. Furthermore, I've been told to remove certain things regarding his identity which sucks because I prefer to be more open.
In essence, I feel I'm holding back about many relationship issues because I don't want to get into it; like what Cash said, "felt like I was being censored."
Additionally, he wants to post on my blog and while it sounds good in theory, I feel it could ignite a war of "he said, he said" ...
... proceed with caution Fuzzy.
Yeah he gone start thinking things buddy..Thats a big motherfucka too lol..Runnnn fuzzy runn lol...
Yeah and maybe somethings you dont quite yet want him to know...hmmm this is a very time sensetive decision sir...IDK man
i would write in code to protect him if in fact he is inspiration for some of your entries. that's what i do to my friends and family that i write about. however, its your blog, so still make sure that your writing isn't affected just because people in your life know you have a blog and don't understand that you want that disconnect from the personal judgement of those in your life that writing on your own blog gives you.
Fuzzy, if you are going to spend any serious time with him then you should be open. Give it to him. Let him read it. He like you for who he met. If things start to show up later, he may feel that you have deceived him with other things. BE honest, that is the Christ like thing to do. Just explain to him why you write. You will do fine.
1st of all, while I was "celibate", I still played with my sauage on a semi-daily basis...Hell, sometimes even 2-3x's on the weekend! LOL!...Is that considered bending the rules?
Now. I've had the exact same question...And have been dying for a right answer! I think there should be some type of open forum/discussion on this topic.
I need advice on this too!
Do you tell the guy your dating that your a Blogger? And, that you blog about your Life, your Loves, and, depending on what kind of Blog you have, your Sexual past/present?
Theres so many variables to consider.
We need to talk! LOL!
;-)
I Just dunno... Everyone's points seems Valid....
Case in point, never scribe to this little space things to which you think you'd be ashamed to share with anyone...
Tell him the addy n move on.
~Damnit!
I wouldn't tell and explain why. It's a blog (not a hook up site)! He should understand.
It sounds like you don't want him to have it, so don't give it to him.
Hey fuzz, i like how you stop coming by but you shouldn't give it to him. he should understand that this is your personal outlet to vent about what ever the hell you want. I wish i would have kept mine that because I really have to watch what i blog about..believe it or not,lol
I initially didn't share mine with BD, but eventually when I did, I asked that he not read it...once the curiousity was at a fever pitch, I said, he could read if he wanted to, but no judgements and no explanations...today we read each other's blogs and chill. It shouldn't be that serious. Most important, if there's something that should be a secret, no one should be told - and you certainly shouldn't write it down.
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