I know this is the second post for today but I wanted to get this off of my chest while I'm feeling it. I have been dubbed one of the bottoms in the group! I don’t see why I have to be a bottom just because I am in a relationship with a top! I have considered myself a bottom in the past. In with newer experiences I left the total bottom title alone. I put on Vers Bottom. That grew old and not I believe that I am fully versatile now. Could I be progressing towards being a top? I don’t know if that is possible or if it will happen. The only thing I know is that I have been dubbed with being a bottom and nobody accepts that I could be anything other than that! I am bothered and disturbed!
Second point! I seem to be caught "queening out" and people say that I get more gay everyday. The people that I hang with that are straight say that I don’t. It only comes out when I am around gay people. I have made a conscious effort to not act gay in view of my straight friends and in places of religion and I have been successful. I try to use my gay friends as a release to "queen out" so it doesn't come out in other places lol.
I grow weary of being a spoken bottom and I am getting tired being called gay. I understand I am in a relationship with a male. Does that fact alone make me gay? I don’t believe so! Its not an idea that I am trying to hold on to my heterosexuality but the fact that on some level a woman can still turn me on!
Lets set the record clear for anyone who seems to have the my story incorrect!
- I am Versatile until otherwise stated by me
- I act one way around the gays and another way in public view, GET USED TO IT!!!
- I am Bisexual
So all of you'll that wanna ride my dick and keep up the chatter, you can suck it when you're finished! FALL BACK!
18 thoughts:
I use to have that title of "bottom" and it bothered me. But as I've gotten older, I just don't give a fuck anymore. Ain't a damn thing wrong with being a bottom. Who would tops fuck if we didn't exist? I like what I like.
As Mo'nique would say "fuck them hoes"!
Thats the thing! I play bottom, But I'm not one! I just do it really well I believe! :-)
you're not a bottom fuzzy, you're just a sexual person. period.
Boy bye, you a dick taking bottom and that's the bottomline. From the permanent arch in your back to your massive hole, u r a bottom...lol. But we still love. And if you want to pretend to be a top from time to time, go for it...lmao.
Maybe gay is the wrong term, but you are definitely homosexual. Look at the way you described pussy in a comment you left on X's pet peeve blog. In reality, you are yourself around your friends and you are putting on a show for others. Just let it go, everyone knows...lol.
Well alright fuzzy. Hmmm being a bottom isn't so bad. I started off being a bottom then that quickly changed after I realized I couldn't take dick. I realize I could b a top (sometimes Verse) not be in pain an do less work Great!! lol If you wanna be versatile do ya thing.
As far as the queening out that does tend to happen when gay people r around. Like when I'm wit fam I'm a nigga. When Ima around yall I tend to let go a lil. Like at the beach u saw a flare of queen when u threw da cold water on me. lol I like when u queen out (hilarious BABBYYYY) LOL. As far as the you not being GAY. as jay would say no no lol. you are. Bisexual yes possibly. I say be them all top, bottom, verse. Even mix em up. But hmmmm question? If ur working towards verse/top status. Is lil old shawn prepared to lay on his stomach an let u take his manhood. lmao.
Just relax and be who you are. The title isn't important its the amount of satisfaction you get when you're doing the thing you do.
(Still a little apprehensive about my comments being deleted...lol. And what is with all these 'I'm every woman/man post this week...?)
Fuz, who you are is who you are. Hell look at it this way... You got all the tools to do whatever it is you want so shyt why choose if you don't have to? Do what feels right for you and don't worry about what others do or feel. Have self confidence before you seek someone to give you confidence in self.
~Damnit!
Oh my god this is so funny to me! I feel bad because I think I'm not suppose to laugh.
I was taking you seriously until you started talking about queening out. You was wearing a blue blanket for hair while writing this post!!!!
I will say this. Because I am short, I was always deemed the bottom! I wasn't even had sex... a virgin even... and I was deemed the bottom!
Being a bottom, for me, will take sometime, and we know that, and we are working it out. I see you as versatile, because I want our relationship to be versatile.
Your dick is so amazing!
Anyway... but please note, when I met you, YOU told me you was a BOTTOM! You didn't tell me versatile until later in the relationship.
About you Queening out. I blame all that on Omar because you did not act like that when we first met. That is not to say that it is not in you!!!!! All the world is a stage, and your acting on all of them! It just comes natural to you on both ends.
I don't mind you queening out. because I want you to be comfortable in your own skin, but I DONT want you being shady, catty, and dissmissive! That quality is NOT you.
You can put that Bisexual crap back in the toilet because I'm not believing that shit! You have never shown me that you was equally attracted to women as you are to men... and that is fine with me!
I'm all the man you need!
OMG, such passion!!
I don't get why people get so wrapped up in these titles. I understand that you may typically use them when looking for Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now to describe your preference. It is needed to save time. You don't want to date someone for a few months and then realize that neither one of you are going to bend over. lol I guess why it bothers me about the titles is that people act as if being a bottom is a bad thing. It doesn't matter to me what you are, you are still Fuzzy and I still love you as you are.
@ Soldier: I am a very sexual person and I Dont wish to be limited to being a bottom (which I'm NOT!)
@ Jay: While I can take dick and I pride myself on being able to take it well! I do It better than alot of bottoms, GET IN!!!
I believe that I am myself when nobody is around me. I would revert back to being the shy, quiet and emotional ugy that is a closet case. Thats who I am. When I first came into the group I seen the behavior of Tyjuan, Omar, Brian, and a few others and contrasted them to me. Very different. I changed my behavior in order to fit into the group more. Where does the show take place now?
@ Promiscuous X: I didn't Know you started off as a bottom, lol! You dont strike me as one. I did notice that moment at the beach, I didn't say anything or dwell on it though lol. Oh I forgot to speak on the pussy thing Jay said, I dont like eating Pussy, Everything else looks well! I just never had much luck at getting the girl I wanted :(
@ whozhe: Thanks! I will be me and I guess the chips will fall where they may!
@ blaq~n~mild: I dont Delete comments from my blog, You may post whatever comment you wish to my blog. I want to hear feedback and I want others to see your feedback. Its all a growing experience for me. I will try to be more confident in who I am and what I am about!
@ shawnqt: You can believe what you wanna believe, thats on you! I dont blame Omar for me "queening out" It is on me. I tried fitting into the crowd by imitating Omar and others I named before. Now Its hard to revert to the old me around you because that is someone that is similar to "Our quiet friend". Jay knows who I am speaking of.
@ ty: I Call a pen a pen, and a pencil a pencil. You dont wanna be called a bottom do you? Especially when you aren't! But I am trying to learn to brush off these labels and move onward! I luva ya too ty! :-)
Man I dont know you other then reading your blog but you know what you are and dont be ashamed. I knew my role before I started messing with dudes. Its just something I wanted tis all. Im a bottom btw..lol..just putting my biz on the net. Anyway, as far as queening out I think that when your so careful around your straight friends all the time by the time we get around our gay friends we get to comfortable and just "let our hair down"..lol...I do it to :\...also..go read my bois blog please. Keep up the god writing all uall keep me entertained on those long days at work...lol
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Yeeeeeeees @ ShawnQT! You better let everybody know that his dick is amazing and you're all the man he needs (I hear the Whitney Houston song in the background lol).
Anyway, I agree with Ty. This lifestyle is so fixated on titles (whether we do it consciously or subconsciously). Hell, I do it myself sometimes. But as I became more comfortable, I realized that being a top, bottom, etc. didn't mean shit. I don't even ask people that question anymore because it's become less and less significant. You're sexual and you like what you like. *Meryl Streep Voice* That's all.
Stop for a minute and re-read your post. The main theme throughout your post was about labels and what others have labeled you as. Here's some advise... fcuk the labels, titles and social norms. Be you and only you. Others will always try to place you in a category to either make them feel good about themselves or determine how they will interact with you. Live for yourself and not others. Top, bottom, versatile bottom, versatile top...sex is sex no matter what position you're in. Don't let the act of sex define who you are. Otherwise you have lowered your character to what you do in the bedroom. Do what makes you and the other person happy. Love is love and it doesn't care who's on top or who's on bottom. It's about compromise. Love will want to make sure the other person is happy and that their needs are taken care of. Good luck to you man.
-Omar Miguel (DC)
One way to avoid being stereotyped, labeled, treated and finally and used as a bottom is... to start leavin a brown betty on your hosts bed. LMAO !
yeah i feel where you are coming from i dont like being picked as a bottom cuz i am not but people think i am i cant help the arch in my back lol i dont c u as a bottom i wud say vers but i think what people are reffering to is the fact that you are with a top and are bottom having sex which everyone knows but we all still love ya lol
Fuzz, You're a trip. lol.. Be you and live your life!!
@ Omar Miguel (DC): I never looked at the situation from that point before. People will always talk and people will always try to put a label on you. Been a problem I've been experiencing, succumbing
to their placement. I'll rise to the occassion, above and beyond where they place me. Immitating Maya Angelou, "I Rise"
I wonder if me liking my "amazing dick" has anything to do with anything! hmmm...
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