The WOW Effect

In regards to the guy that didn't work out from my playing the field post, I felt it necessary to share a growth I noticed in myself. Ordinarily, I jump into things, relationships, tasks, friendships and pay little attention to signs of potential danger and future hardship. I notice them way later than needed and by that time I'm already at ground zero of a hot mess! Gabe used to always tell me that I lacked foresight, but I'm happy to say that I've picked some up!

 

Mr. Smith and I started talking a bit after my birthday. He is a very fun guy, playful and very sweet. Weeks after meeting and hanging out, he went away and disappeared while I took ill for a few days. I was left feeling a bit angry about the situation. After all, I felt like we were building something great and how could he just leave me sick like this? Didn't even call to check in on me! When we got back into contact we argued and I bowed when I realized we weren't together. There was no obligation for him to stay, no requirement for him to check in or any call for him to do anything! I asked myself why. I asked myself, is this guy the one? I didn't believe there was enough wow in him for me to date him. Then I discovered the "WOW" effect.

 

The WOW effect is a feeling of greatness that is on a person and in the relationship you have that makes you say "wow". I thought about Shawn, I was wowed by Shawn to be around him. I was wowed to talk with him. I was wowed when we laid together. I was wowed when I thought of him. When I woke up and he was on my mind, I even said wow! It was like we were one. Even when I was dead wrong and cheated on him he would call or text and I would stop whatever I was doing and come to him! It wasn't a loss of love that caused me to cheat, it was feelings of dissatisfaction in the bedroom that caused me to cheat. I would of never left but he broke up with me and so things go! Even after the breakup I was still having the wow in how much my heart broke when he told me to leave and things were over.

 

I asked Mr. Smith did I wow him and he said the way I think wows him. I asked him if that was all and he said a couple more things. I had to tell him that wasn't enough. If I am going to be with someone I need to be Wowed! There needs to be a mutual WOW! The bigger the wow the better the relationship in my experience. I just have to make better more compatible choices of men to date to experience a better wow!

 

I'm going to insert codename Big Tig into the scene. A southern boy is relocating to NJ and I just so happen to stumble on his profile on the 1 night he stayed over his friends place on a GPS app Jack'd when I was in an area that I normally do not visit anymore. He's named Big Tig because he really looks like Big Tigger to me! Nothing more at this time about him but just mentioning the factors of our crossing paths and having much in common, plus sharing a mutual attraction on that very small window of opportunity has me excited! WOW may be headed my direction!

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