Gabe and I were having a conversation about in the event of an emergency what should happen. On the way to the hospital to see about a cold, I was slight sideswiped by a lil honda. I had my right crossing the street and here somes a honda running the light. Luckily i happened to look that direction to see it just in time but my knee was tagged. I'm fine just strain from dodging out the way. If it had of been worse my brother would of been called for in case of emergency contact, but Gabe would be there first. I asked would he keep it cool being around my brother. He was iight with that.
With that in my mind already, i came across a post of Dayne Avery about it gets better. I thought to myself, if i introduced my bf to my family, and the two of our families met, what would happen? My immediate response would be war. War with us individually and then war between the families. My next internal question was "would it get better?" and i couldnt seem to gather any facts to support yes. An outstanding amount of evidence pointed towards no.
I thought about how i feel about Gabe. His family is aware about him and disapproves. Sort of the same with mine. The difference is his parents know about me and Gabe. My family doesnt. Im not jumping to tell them either. In disasters surfacing, facts will surface too and they will know then.
I know there are people out there who are actively in homosexual relationships that havent told there cloe blood relatives about the specifics on their personal life. Would you answer the question "What if?"
Keep On Wondering...
With that in my mind already, i came across a post of Dayne Avery about it gets better. I thought to myself, if i introduced my bf to my family, and the two of our families met, what would happen? My immediate response would be war. War with us individually and then war between the families. My next internal question was "would it get better?" and i couldnt seem to gather any facts to support yes. An outstanding amount of evidence pointed towards no.
I thought about how i feel about Gabe. His family is aware about him and disapproves. Sort of the same with mine. The difference is his parents know about me and Gabe. My family doesnt. Im not jumping to tell them either. In disasters surfacing, facts will surface too and they will know then.
I know there are people out there who are actively in homosexual relationships that havent told there cloe blood relatives about the specifics on their personal life. Would you answer the question "What if?"
Keep On Wondering...
4 thoughts:
First and foremost I'm pleased to hear that you're okay and was not injured in the accident or mishap.
What if you and Gabe introduced yourselves to the other's family as lovers/partners? Well from what you have stated here in reference to the fact that Gabe's family knows of his lifestyle, but doesn't approve. You also mentioned that your family knows of your lifestyle and they do not approve either. The shyte will hit the fan!
What should happen is that both families should either accept your relationship and respect it, but what is most likely to happen is they will diss you and avoid being around you. These things take time and thought.
I'm one of those people that it took a long time for me to become comfortable in my own skin, so what the next person thinks of me doesn't actually affect me anymore and that includes family. Yes most of my family knows, but there are a few that don't, but I know they suspect me of being gay/homosexual. Oh well they keep their distance and I keep mine.
What if both families accepted your relationships? Then all would be right in the world, but don't bet on them accepting your relationship, they really have no clue how to accept same sex loving partners family or not.
I say, what do you have to lose. If they don't approve, nothing has changed. If they approve, well you are better off. Either way, at some point I hope you choose to live your life for you, not your family.
I couldn't begin to imagine BD and I having to keep our families separate and having a fear of sharing anything with them. Case in point, my parents flew in from Puerto Rico and were at BD's last birthday dinner along with my siblings and BD's entire family. I specifically created opportunities for us to rope in our families and we've done a great job. It comes in time and it's best to get it done.
What Ifs are interesting...NOTHING like reality!
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