Gabe and I are seeing more of each other and we're calling each other boyfriends. I swear I didn't even see this coming when I met him. I met up wit him to just chill wit him at Shawn's new years party. We smashed that night and I didn't really have much of a second thought about him. My attention was with Steven. Remember him? Yea... Gabe came to my rescue and scooped me out of my funk. He was my Super Man and I was very grateful. He claimed he was just being real and tellin me not to be beat over some dick I never met, I interpreted it as an act if kindness. That was the door into his personality and I opened the door and walked in.
To the outside eye, Gabe is probably everything that people would steer clear from. Possibly even create detours to avoid the very contact. I saw Gabe for Gabe and I wasn't complaining, nor running towards the nearest exit. His personality is just what I need. Someone who is real and who doesn't bullshit. He has this way about him that I believe is hardened and firm. You could say he's in that "can't teach an old dog new tricks" stage. I somehow make him see the other side of things. I've been raised by my mom to go about things many ways and to examine the situation to take the best stab it the thing. Gabe just goes a poking! An open mind is a gateway to further understanding. He has the open mind. Judging by the people in his life, I don't believe he's been led outside the box too often. This is where I come in. I've led him outside his mental box and I believe its been for the better.
In retrospect, he's taught me many things that I never knew about because of where I come from. He's had to raise himself, been through many urban hardships and has had a rough set of cards. He's been very fortunate so far to come out so well. I've had more of a controlled and sheltered life. Taught morals and was around phony picture perfect families pretending all was ok. From different worlds we come from but we can offer each other our experiences from said worlds. I've seen the benefits.
In the past, my bf and I have shared worlds with our friends. We've come together and functioned properly. Here, this is not the case. I don't believe my "friends" are in support of me dating Gabe. Marlon could possible by the only one and only because he's always been supportive of my choices. He's always there to help me pick up the pieces when things go wrong. He gives me the reality of things as he sees it, and lets me go the way I choose. I do sorta feel some kind of way that the majority of my "friends" don't care for him and all have some attitudes towards him. I could take it as a healthy sign, but not one of them but Jay has tried any sort of reasonable effort to get to know him. How can you judge someone without knowing about them and where they come from? Hey, these are the "friends" I have.
I'm not going to pretend like I agree with everything Gabe does, nor how he does it. I'm sure He has certain dislikes about me! We advance ourselves by communicating these things and building common grounds for further advancement. Some of those "friends" say I'm settling and I shouldn't do that. I kindly inform them that they settle on a daily basis! No, you shouldn't settle, but who is going to find the perfect man? Who is going to find the perfect woman? Who is going to land themselves in a perfect situation? If they are not perfect, I hate to tell you but, YOU'RE SETTLING!
I don't like going against of the majority, but I'm going to do just that. Gabe has my emotions and makes me happy. I enjoy putting a smile on his face and he loves to do the same! We're growing and I'm taking it for what it is. FUCK THE MAJORITY! No offense! lol
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To the outside eye, Gabe is probably everything that people would steer clear from. Possibly even create detours to avoid the very contact. I saw Gabe for Gabe and I wasn't complaining, nor running towards the nearest exit. His personality is just what I need. Someone who is real and who doesn't bullshit. He has this way about him that I believe is hardened and firm. You could say he's in that "can't teach an old dog new tricks" stage. I somehow make him see the other side of things. I've been raised by my mom to go about things many ways and to examine the situation to take the best stab it the thing. Gabe just goes a poking! An open mind is a gateway to further understanding. He has the open mind. Judging by the people in his life, I don't believe he's been led outside the box too often. This is where I come in. I've led him outside his mental box and I believe its been for the better.
In retrospect, he's taught me many things that I never knew about because of where I come from. He's had to raise himself, been through many urban hardships and has had a rough set of cards. He's been very fortunate so far to come out so well. I've had more of a controlled and sheltered life. Taught morals and was around phony picture perfect families pretending all was ok. From different worlds we come from but we can offer each other our experiences from said worlds. I've seen the benefits.
In the past, my bf and I have shared worlds with our friends. We've come together and functioned properly. Here, this is not the case. I don't believe my "friends" are in support of me dating Gabe. Marlon could possible by the only one and only because he's always been supportive of my choices. He's always there to help me pick up the pieces when things go wrong. He gives me the reality of things as he sees it, and lets me go the way I choose. I do sorta feel some kind of way that the majority of my "friends" don't care for him and all have some attitudes towards him. I could take it as a healthy sign, but not one of them but Jay has tried any sort of reasonable effort to get to know him. How can you judge someone without knowing about them and where they come from? Hey, these are the "friends" I have.
I'm not going to pretend like I agree with everything Gabe does, nor how he does it. I'm sure He has certain dislikes about me! We advance ourselves by communicating these things and building common grounds for further advancement. Some of those "friends" say I'm settling and I shouldn't do that. I kindly inform them that they settle on a daily basis! No, you shouldn't settle, but who is going to find the perfect man? Who is going to find the perfect woman? Who is going to land themselves in a perfect situation? If they are not perfect, I hate to tell you but, YOU'RE SETTLING!
I don't like going against of the majority, but I'm going to do just that. Gabe has my emotions and makes me happy. I enjoy putting a smile on his face and he loves to do the same! We're growing and I'm taking it for what it is. FUCK THE MAJORITY! No offense! lol
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Hey Fuzzy! Long time, long time…
I always stop over at I Wonder and check out what’s going on with you, so forgive me that I don’t comment more often. Seems the whole blog world has gone to pot!
I’m so happy to hear that you’ve met someone who makes you happy and that you enjoy being with. Love is something to be celebrated. Ultimately, no one should make your decisions with regard to love.
That said…our real friends are our conscience. They see us for who we are and see those in our lives without the benefit of the rose-colored glasses that can sometimes distort our perception of folks. Luckily, true friends will come around and be in our lives regardless who we choose to be with. The question really is, how is your man treating the folks that are important to you? You see, during the honeymoon stage your man will want to make a good impression and be liked by folks’ that you care about; if that isn’t happening, I’d WONDER why he doesn’t care about the people I care about and why he isn’t hell bent on making a good impression with them.
Do you…be happy…all the best.
I already know gabe doesn't particularly care for the stereotypical loud gay behavior in great doses. For that matter nor do I! There were 2 gatherings where he ran into one particular friend and he was met with unkind words. The next scenario the friends mood was seemingly fragile towards him, along with the company of other friends who shared similar opinions.
He gave them good treatment, but they are not his types of people but he remained in the atmosphere because i asked him to. The friends had hostility towards him.
It doesn't appear at all that you're settling. If your friends are truly friends they'll learn to love your new boyfriend. If you are happy that is all that matters at this point.
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