Ok the subject that I wanted to talk about on video I can't do. I got ready to do the video and lo and behold My camera is missing! So I have to do the video post later on this week when I get my webcam back...
I'm going to say that a couple who I know, I'll name them Dee and Cee, are a new couple and are going through a lil something. Dee is 39 years old and seems to like younger guys. the guy that he just started to date is Cee and he is 18 years old. There is an obvious power struggle and a control issue. Dee, it seems like to me, always as to have the last word. Has to throw his dominance around. Cee is very book-smart and isn't street smart. He gets walked on all the time. It is SOOO plain to see that Dee Takes advantage of him and Cee doesn't know how to react to it. Just on tonight he wanted to come by Shawn's place and play video games. Dee said, "go if you want" "I don't know if I'm gonna be home when you get through". I'm hearing this and I say what the hell! Dee couldn't be considerate and call before he leaves or swing by and pick him up before he goes out? well he's the reply to that, "I'm not going that way". I heard that and all I could do is:
The thing is that I like Cee more than I like Dee. I've known Dee for 2 years. I want, for some reason, to side with Cee. He seems like he is the one that is going to be a victim of a upcoming relationship. Its going way too fast and way to quickly. I'm so up in the air I can't finish this post! How do you hang around all of this foolishness?
Question: Why is it that some people need to control their lover or people in general?
I'm going to say that a couple who I know, I'll name them Dee and Cee, are a new couple and are going through a lil something. Dee is 39 years old and seems to like younger guys. the guy that he just started to date is Cee and he is 18 years old. There is an obvious power struggle and a control issue. Dee, it seems like to me, always as to have the last word. Has to throw his dominance around. Cee is very book-smart and isn't street smart. He gets walked on all the time. It is SOOO plain to see that Dee Takes advantage of him and Cee doesn't know how to react to it. Just on tonight he wanted to come by Shawn's place and play video games. Dee said, "go if you want" "I don't know if I'm gonna be home when you get through". I'm hearing this and I say what the hell! Dee couldn't be considerate and call before he leaves or swing by and pick him up before he goes out? well he's the reply to that, "I'm not going that way". I heard that and all I could do is:
::EXHALE::
The thing is that I like Cee more than I like Dee. I've known Dee for 2 years. I want, for some reason, to side with Cee. He seems like he is the one that is going to be a victim of a upcoming relationship. Its going way too fast and way to quickly. I'm so up in the air I can't finish this post! How do you hang around all of this foolishness?
9 thoughts:
Mine your business lest you become the object of their quarrel... remember, it's always easier to blame an outside party... things will sort themselves out... and since D is old enuf to be Cs father, he should be aware that this power struggle is temporary... C will realize (sooner or later) that he needs a partner, not another dad.
Blame Omar, he took the cameras! Why he took both, I don't know! Sorry I put you on blast, lol.
Anywoo...
1) I think a 20 year gap is too much! Especially with an 18 year old. I don't care how mature you think you are, he is old enough to be your daddy!
2) Why date somebody so young? Would it be ideal to date someone that has lived a little, so you don't have to get mad at the mistakes or inexperience ur mate will have?
3) It is hard for me to comment to them about something... i mean it is there relationship that they both consented with. Both are looking for something in the other, question is, is it healthy?
What is Cee looking for in Dee?
What is Dee looking for in Cee?
These questions need to be answered by the only parties that can answer them.. Dee & Cee...
All you can do, is be a friend to the one that you feel is worthy of your friendship.
To the one that you feel will benefit your friendship?
Sadly, it is not your place to tell either one how to live their lives.. but for you to be there, to assist when things fall apart (if you feel you wish to)
One thing I always try to live by..
People have options and choices in life.
We have the Option to live as we wish.
And the choice to abide but what we know.
Or.. however you wish to view that!
Fuzzy,
Stay out of it. Let Cee learn his lesson on his own and just be there when he needs you.
Funny Thing is I think I wanna be there for Cee more than I wanna be there for Dee! Is that Shady? I am trying my best not to interfere. But I will say something the next time they perform in my pressance. Its one thing to do it and another to make me uncomfortable while they do it. However I will still attempt to keep quiet and to myself until this relationship blows over. In my opinion, this will not last!
I'm going to say this now, i'm going to try to keep my mouth shut in this situation, but this is dangerous relationship. dee is isolating cee from the world. cee is becoming totally dependent on dee. dee knows what he is doing, i just feel bad for cee, as most of us that have witness the poor treatment, do
Fuzzy,
I am only going to say this:
I would leave the situation alone.
But, if you feel compelled to be on the side of Cee then do that. Support Cee but dont let it go so far as to forget the friendship u have with Dee cause u feel closer to Cee(as far as friends go). Its their realtionship hopefully things will get better for Cee before things really get hectic.
"The limits of tyrants are prescribed by the endurance of those whom they oppress."
Frederick Douglas
... and remember one other thing. That which Dee gives to Cee is Cees.Dee cannot take what is Cees' and give it to another. For Dee to imply otherwise is an abuse of the relationship.
I say you get A and B and the rest of the alphabet together and show D what's what! It'll be kinda like a why was 6 afraid of 7 type thing!
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